You have a short fuse and it's costing you. You say things you regret, people walk on eggshells, and you know this isn't who you want to be. Here's the truth: anger isn't the problem—it's the warning light on your dashboard. Something underneath needs attention.
For many men, anger is the only "acceptable" emotion—easier to express than hurt, fear, or helplessness. But when it becomes your default, it damages what matters most.
Anger is rarely just anger. Research shows strong correlation between anger and depression (r = 0.57), with the effect strongest in men. Twenty-six percent of men report feeling "irritated more than people knew." It's usually masking something else—depression showing up as irritability, anxiety coming out as frustration, feeling powerless or disrespected, unprocessed grief or trauma. For men especially, anger feels safer and more acceptable than admitting vulnerability. But unchecked, it destroys relationships, careers, and your own well-being.
Stress, lack of sleep, feeling unheard or disrespected, suppressing other emotions, substance use, isolation.
Learning your triggers, catching escalation early, addressing what's beneath the anger, developing emotional vocabulary beyond "fine" and "pissed."
"My wife said she was scared of my temper. That hit me hard. I thought I was just 'passionate.' Turns out I was depressed and it was coming out as rage. Learning to recognize when I'm escalating—and what to do about it—saved my marriage."
— David, 35, anger management treatment
We work with men who want to change patterns before they cross lines, or who struggle with irritability and outbursts but aren't abusive.
If you're engaging in domestic violence, threats, or physical intimidation, we'll connect you with specialized programs designed for those situations.
You'll catch yourself before you explode. You'll have a pause button between trigger and reaction. People will stop walking on eggshells. You'll express what you need without aggression. Your relationships will feel safer. You'll stop carrying around guilt and shame. Think of it like installing a better cooling system—you're still passionate, but you're not overheating.
Learning to recognize triggers and de-escalate helps in the moment—and that's valuable. But if you don't understand what anger is masking, the emotional energy just finds new outlets. You control the rage but develop passive aggression. You stop yelling but start withdrawing. The underlying issue—depression, shame, powerlessness, unprocessed trauma—remains.
We combine immediate management skills with deep exploration of what's underneath. When you understand what anger is protecting or expressing, you can address the actual problem instead of just controlling the symptom. This prevents anger from morphing into other destructive patterns.
Explore what anger is masking—depression, fear, shame, powerlessness, unprocessed trauma. Address the real issue, not just the symptom.
Learn to recognize escalation signs before you're flooded. Identify your specific triggers and how they connect to deeper patterns.
Practical tools to calm your nervous system, reduce reactivity, and create space between stimulus and response.
Express needs and boundaries assertively without aggression. Be heard without escalating.
Anger often connects to depression, stress and burnout, and unprocessed trauma. We treat the whole picture.
Understand what's driving your anger and develop skills to respond differently.
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